Friday, 4 May 2018

Why #WomenED is so very special but needs to become redundant.

Or, if I'm Frank I'm bewildered about what's happening.
However, my name is John and I'm a #WomanEdaholic, let me tell you a story...

A week ago (as I write this guest BLOG) I was preparing a 5 minute presentation for my first #WomenEd meet. I knew about #WomenEd, what it stood for and had decided it was the best place to share an idea I’d been mulling over for a while.  I was a nervous as the idea might be provocative.  I also worried I may not “fit in” or be “acceptable” because I would be seen as a meddling, little, old, man….  Friends I sounded out about the idea for the session were surprised.  One laughed, saying, “Wow you’re brave - 80 women on that subject! Do you expect to escape intact?” Guess the gender... It was Friday night banter, after a few drinks. Well, if I'm Frank, I'd say we all say things we don’t mean sometimes, or just blurt truths into our emptying glassware.

I made the presentation Saturday morning and judged it went pretty well based on comments made at the time.  The other presentations were excellent, colleagues spoke of the imposter syndrome, shine theory and how they’d been inspired by #WomenEd.  There was a breath of fresh, clean air and tangible energy in the room.  I went home, quite emotional and tweeted this BLOG on the talk and our experience. 

The six days since have been astonishing.  As the week ends, it has had 42K+ impressions and the BLOG has well over 300 pageviews and rising. My inbox has been peppered with affirming mail. All responses, from around the world, have liked, applauded and want more about Consensual Leadership and the associated PANINI CONTINUUM.  I am already writing more on that – maybe as an adjunct to iAbacus.

A week later I’m still a man, intact and strangely not feeling quite so old, or so small.  One reply meant a great deal, “You have a tribe. Your tribe has grown. You are very much part of the #WomenEd tribe and family John :-)  So, I guess, I’m in the induction phase as a #WomenEd #Brave who dares to be 10% brave and uses #HeForShe naturally.


Take-away 1: #WomenEd is life enhancing.

Midweek, the inspirational Hannah Wilson @HopefulHT, who introduced the #LeadMeet, asked me to write a follow up BLOG tweeting;

Thinking hard.. I wrote the title… and went a little beyond the brief....

Why #WomenED is so very special but needs to become redundant.

In a depressing world #WomenEd and what strong women are doing, for us all, is a beacon of hope.  #WomenEd is so special because it manifestly changes lives.  On-line through #WomenEd links you can delve into Leadership, PSHE, Well-Being, SMSC, finding a moral purpose, nurturing wisdom, looking for common values and so much more.  All in the company of responsive and appreciative colleagues, mostly, but not all, women. Search #WomenEd and you’ll be immersed in stories, accounts, ideas and a real sense of a movement dedicated to releasing the wisdom within women… and men.

Take-away 2: In virtual reality, online, #WomenEd is a store of practical treasures.

Attending the Mansfield #LeadMeet, it was immediately obvious that the #WomenEd virtual environment was present in reality too.  It was a warm, friendly, inclusive and relaxed atmosphere. The group exuded camaraderie, care, fun and I felt at home.  Accounts of others, many women and a few men, testify to the same emotionally intelligent environment at other #WomenEd sessions they had attended.

Take-away 3: In actual reality #WomenEd events are inspirational.

So, Yes, Yes, Hannah, and all, I’m more than happy to state all this to encourage other #HeForShe advocates.  

BLOG job done – thanks!


But it’s not the end is it.  It’s still the beginning... again Emily!  We have a long way to go.  And, anyway, who are the “we” here?  I have a nagging worry and imagine I'm not the only one (yep deliberate) and we need to discuss this… not sure yet how it will work out but I must, as a newly initiated #WomenEd #Brave, add some more provocative thoughts….  I’ll try and explain what I mean by recounting a true story about a significant cultural change, early in my long career – bear with, bear with…

I started teaching in 1970 and corporal punishment was well established in Secondary and Primary Education.  It was routinely administered by individual teachers, using a cane or slipper.  I hated it not just because I had been beaten badly at Grammar School.  On one occasion I had needed medical attention for purple bruises and deep cuts to my backside. I literally sensed it was completely wrong – full stop. 

So, I refused to use the cane, on principle. Later, as a new Head of House in 1974 it was expected that I would cane, on behalf of other staff who wanted it administered for their misbehaving students. This was to end “heat of the moment” punishments that had previously been common in some classrooms. Cool, corporate efficiency being preferred I presume. I continued refusing to use the cane, preferring alternative methods of behavior leadership and, I believed, more effective strategies. This caused considerable debate in school and beyond. I should add that students in “my” Thoresby House behaved just as well and probably better than in the other three houses, where the cane was often used.  

Here’s the point.  I was asked to run a four-session twilight course on Pastoral Care in Nottingham in 1974.  In the first session I floated this thought, “If we are still using the cane in the year 2000 it will be an indictment of the teaching profession”.  I intended it to be challenging.  It was. The Local Authority Course Leader, a “Headmaster”, later to become an Inspector I would line manage, called me over and, in some angst, said I was a maverick, told me not to return and took over the course. 

Corporal Punishment was outlawed in State Schools, by the British parliament, in 1986. That was the year I published the book, "The Evaluation of Pastoral Care".

So, with that in mind I’m offering an updated cultural challenge to our profession. , “If we are still attending #WomenEd events in the year 2050 it will be an indictment of the teaching profession” Why? Because, if there is still a need to meet as mainly women, with a few #HeForShe men, we will have failed to ENTHUSE – INFORM – ENGAGE – INVOLVE - CONFER LEADERSHIP and so will not be able to LET GO… (Note the first public use of the PANINI CONTINUUM) 

If #WomenEd exists in 2050 it will be an indictment of the teaching profession.

I came to this whilst pondering the open invitation for men to join #WomenEd and my thinking went like this…

(See @621carly Carly Waterman’s brilliant, funny and insightful BLOG from last Saturday’s event, when she introduced us to #Doris her inner voice. )

#Frank, my newly named, inner voice, is in conversation with Carly's Doris....

Frank:  I see those bolshy #WomenEd ladies are inviting men to your events… What’s that all about?
Doris:   NNNNNOOOO! What? Men will just…. Ooh No….they’ll just spoil it…. Mind you.. some of them might be alright… (Puts on Monty Python voice) Know what I mean? Nudge nudge wink wink!
Frank:  Huh, typical… Well, I for one, will certainly not be attending. I’ve better things to do with MY time…
Doris:  Well, you’re hardly eye-candy are you… Anyway, you wouldn’t be invited with your Neanderthal attitudes, leery tendencies and authoritarian behaviour… proper little Donald Trump you are…
Frank:  Fine…. Fine…. That’s fine by me…We’re all entitled to our opinions, right? But I get results, right? (mock Sinatra sings)  “I’ll do it My Way” (mock Trump adding waving little hands) “ Make Education Great Again….”  Seriously, it all went down the tubes when they banned the cane..… Never did me any harm, my love… Did it?”

Meanwhile a genuine #WomenEd woman and a proper #HeForShe man are pondering over a Latte (This conversation includes comments taken from #WomenEd's twiiter feed this week)

She:  Men are very welcome to #WomenEd events of course… You know that?
He:  Oh… I thought it was just for women… It would feel like crashing… I’d feel people would assume I was virtue signaling… Isn’t the whole point that these are for women?
She: We understand if men are unsure – it’s just we welcome men who want to support women in their teams… you know the #HeForShes…men who want to learn the women’s perspective and help.
He: Hmm..I can see your point...OK.. I'll come... It's just that you - by that I mean “we” (pauses) Can I say “We”?  Whatever... #WomenEd will have to be so careful that that they…I mean we…. Don’t let in too many of the (draws inverted commas in the air) “wrong type” of men in and I suppose women too… Oh, help me here… (she smiles) 
Oh come on! You know exactly what I mean… those men and women… the “machos” who… you know... just assume… who speak a lot… too much and… in the end take-over….
She: (Laughs) I know well what you’re saying… But I still think we need to do it. Maybe take it gently though… Slow but sure... We'll have to be prepared to call out any bad stuff - if it happens.  You know, model the kinds of behaviour we all want and need. We know we've got to be 10% braver and 10% stronger in preserving it… nurturing it…. spreading it…  It’s what we women are known for and good at… Urgh… Did I just say that? I should have said some men too… Like you I mean… I mean you too... Some men are doing this as well…you know...

To be continued….

I want to really END with a direct quote from a valued friend, Kevin Ford who wrote positively and at length after reading the “Consensual Leadership” BLOG. He is really liking the concept and ends with

“..... it all fits well with Alma Harris's work.... (silent "but") I remain suspicious of the binary division into male and female. Yes, we are biologically binary but both men and women are capable of the full range of human emotion and can move up and down the Panini Continuum as easily as each other. My tribe is male by biology and human by inclination. I don’t want to desert the bewildered men of the world because any consensual future has got to include us.”

Just love that description, "bewildered men". #HelpFrank 

So, my final take-away...

Take-away 5: 
How will #WomenEd educate “bewildered men” in order to become redundant?

and if I'm Frank please, can we do it before 2050?  


John Pearce May 3rd 2018

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Irons in the fire ๐Ÿ”ฅ hammering ๐Ÿ”จanvil, PC & piano ๐ŸŽน Sculpting and tempering apathy into hope #HeForShe  Lover of poetry & metaphor

Creator of The iAbacus

Saturday, 28 April 2018


My presentation at #WomenEd #LeadMeet Mansfield 28th April 2018

First a word about #WomenED

Since #WomenEd started a few years ago, I’ve been deeply influenced and encouraged by finding out and reading around #womened. Even tweeting and receiving replies!  (Thanks Jill and Vivienne!)

Through #WomenEd links I’ve read about Leadership, PSHE, Well-Being, SMSC, finding a moral purpose, nurturing wisdom, looking for our common values and much more.  I admit it, I’ve been jealous of the camaraderie, care and obvious support #WomenEd offers and provides.  In a depressing world #WomenEd and what strong women are doing is a beacon for us all. 

That’s why, rather than remain lurking as a male admirer, I dared to ask if a man could attend a local #LeadMeet and was warmed by the positive reply.  Then when a speaker slot came free I offered to launch the provocative idea of “Consensual Leadership”. I was even more pleased by this….

I wasn’t ready to use the #HeForShe - it felt a bit obsequious and virtuous signalling.  So, I prepared my talk with some trepidation and was pretty nervous as I joined the #womened #leadmeet in Mansfield…. spot the bloke....

I was genuinely welcomed, became immediately involved and was touched by the speakers before me.  Indeed, I had to choke back tears as I rose to speak. I managed to say,  “Sorry, I’m still reeling from that phrase, “Find your tribe….”.  I now realise it's a #womenEd mantra.  Then I gathered my thoughts and began…

Good Morning WOMENEd

I’ve found more common sense, emotional intelligence, compassion and thoughtful debate through #WomenEd than anywhere else.  So, I believe there’s more hope in this room, than most places I frequent.  Consensual Leadership is an idea I've been mulling over for months but not dared write up.  So, I thought, where better to explore this than in a presentation to a #WomenEd event?   So...

·         I want to share  What depresses me  and how it led me to hope
·         Float an idea about Consensual Leadership and
·         Offer a Model to Evaluate it

What depresses me…

I’ll just list Names:  Trump, Weinstein, Mike Ashworth (Boss of Sports Direct – less than 5 miles away from here in Mansfield) and some topics:  Fake News, Sexual Abuse, Grenfell Tower, Child Safety, Gender Pay gap, Social Media corruption, Windrush….

It all seems to be about the abuse of power….. unthinking selfishness, of the both the abusers AND their silent witnesses – who mutely watched.   We can all name someone who meekly watched the abuses we now know took place.  I guess each of us harbour some shame when we didn’t speak truth to power, grass up, whistleblow, or call out, “Not in my name” on some occasion when a bully was at play….  Shame on all Silent Witnesses.

It depresses me that so many of these named people, and the others you know, practise inadequate leadership by being, variously: coercive, dominant, gun-ho, oppressive, bullying, abusive and macho.  It’s even more depressing when these “styles” are prized by some observers, speaking of: authoritarian, decisive, strong, heroic…..  Then I realised what I was REALLY angry about were the non-consensual approaches. It's not just the style that you use it's the way that you use it...

Inadequate, non-consensual leaders tend to act first and think second, if they think at all.  When things go wrong, as they often do, they talk of “unintended consequences”, to excuse their lack of thought - probably because they didn’t seek the help, or advice of others.  If they did consult it’s likely the others were too frightened to disagree.  I’ve watched that happen – jumped in myself and got the bruises – but they do heal, over time.

It’s possible to read this as a cycle of doom…  and it will be unless we act.  "All that is required for evil....."  We have to break the cycle!  So, I want to explore how Consensual Leadership might be one way of doing just that…   (and I was thinking:  Who better to understand and do this than strong women?)

So….  Consensual Leadership – what is it?

Reasonable people, in the light of the abuses above, especially in the heat of #MeToo responses, are coming to accept that the best, PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS, especially but not exclusively sexual, are judged on whether they were consensual – literally judged in many cases (ref: Bill Cosby this week)

So, I began thinking privately, through the hurt of all this, and I’m now asking publicly - "Shouldn’t we apply the same standard in our WORKING RELATIONSHIPS?  Surely, they too must be consensual?"  We need to begin thinking about Consensual Leadership in order to model the kind of behaviours we want to nurture in those we lead, especially our students - the future leaders

My starter definition for Consensual Leadership:

Consensual Leadership is about encouraging acceptance and agreement before actions are taken. It is about seeking cooperative approaches and mutual understanding. It implies sympathetic and emotionally intelligent responses.  It is inclusive, enabling and empowering and encourages working together and caring interdependently. 

and yes, it's about love, or at least, unconditional regard, respect, dignity of thought.

On the way…. Can we please stop heralding INDEPENDENT LEARNING as a destination, rather than a signpost for INTERDEPENDENT learning?  Independent implies “It’s all about me” which is how the notion of, “I’m all right Jack!” is perpetuated.  Thank God Jill arrived.  Thinking "I'm independent" is how macho leadership  begins and triumphs.  By the way, I looked for a female equivalent of Macho but couldn’t find one – significant?  One Thesaurus did offer “Feminism” but that doesn't work.  No…. Interdependence is a higher level of understanding than Independence because it means, “It’s all about us” including the dependent and vulnerable. It's also a stepping stone to consensus....

And as I'm pausing (ranting?) by the wayside I’ll also plead that we end that stupid notion that only Teachers teach and only Leaders lead.  We each do both…. Now back on the track….

I believe that when we, teachers and leaders in education, demonstrate Consensual Leadership, there will be fewer Trumps, Weinsteins and Grenfells….

So, how to encourage consensual leaders?   

I have long argued that, Judging the point and nature of intervention is our key skill as teachers and leaders i.e. choosing whether to intervene, or not, and then when and how to intervene to have a desired effect… in this case to instill, sustain and develop Consensual Leadership behaviours…..

Try this....

A Model to Evaluate Consensual Leadership


(Point And Nature of Intervention Needs Intelligence) 

OK it’s an awful acronym but you’ll remember it…

The model suggests that moving our behaviours from LEFT to RIGHT on the continuum will bring about consensual relationships.  Right Hand behaviours will facilitate INTERDEPENDENCE which is about working together.  It’s not that the LEFT is wrong – it’s recognising that too many Left Hand behaviours, too often, will tend to build dependence.  “Please Miss – what do you want us to do next?”  So, we ought to get to the Right Hand behaviours ASAP if we want to build capacity, encourage sharing and teamwork, “Hey…look at this – we can do it ourselves”.

Let's explore too, how it’s possible to TELL and INSTRUCT with agreement i.e. consensually.  “Let me show you first, in order that you will better do it when you have a go…soon”.  This will sound and feel very different from dominant, non-responsive hectoring TELLS and INSTRUCTS. “Do as I say (because I say so)  (because I am your boss - I am paying you)  (because I'm bigger/stronger than you!)".  Conversely, it’s possible to DELEGATE cruelly by dumping work on colleagues. It can also be dangerous to LET GO too soon, before students, or colleagues are ready.  Consensual leadership is about tone and manner too.  It is about knowing your people and  demands emotional intelligence.

So, I'm hoping that applying The PANINI CONTINUUM model will be about making appropriate choices.  It lets us judge that point and nature of appropriate intervention... as we try to foster consensus and interdependence.  It’s about we leaders building capacity in order to set free…

So, play with PANINI!  Use it to, “Look at what you do, with a view to doing it better next time”. Use it as a bookmark, stick on your notice-board, even your bedpost…

·        Shifting he bulk of your interventions to the right AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.  Go on... Hand over responsibility – dare to trust.
You could
·       REVIEW something you led recently and how you might have deployed more of the right hand approaches – sooner and with more people…
·       Challenge yourself and others, about HOW and WHY you'll PLAN to use a range of CONSENSUAL styles in a new initiative..

So…… I’ve tried to say…

The world, globally and locally, will become less depressing if we give hope to those who have been and are still being abused by some in power.

Leadership is about creating the permitting circumstances for others to grow and learn to become Interdependent

I floated the idea of Consensual Leadership and argued that if we want our young people and colleagues to understand and apply Consensual Leadership in their Personal AND Working lives… we have to model it ourselves, in our day to day behaviours.

Thank you......  Have I found my Tribe?

I’d love to talk more and develop this thinking with anyone interested…

NOTE:  There is a glitch in the BLOG COMMENT link below
So please email me direct if you wish to comment:

And the responses?

So, back home, I took a selfie and tweeted it..

John Pearce Saturday 28th April 2018 



Sunday morning after posting the BLOG.... a restless night thinking, buzzing and returning to the fact that I'd first used a different #HeForShe selfie.  I'd removed it because it I looked a bit grim and maybe the comment was sharing personal too much...  Then I remembered several nudges and one PUSH (thanks Fee @dogpaws23 ) from the 'WomenEd #LeadMeet yesterday about being 10% braver.... and daring to be more open  so.... here  goes... this is what I originally wrote....

So back home I took a selfie and tweeted it..

Then cropping it, I noticed, with pride, the picture behind of our strong daughter Hannah on her wedding day.  That made me think of the other strong women in my life... I won't name them here - they know who they are and how much they mean to me...  

That made me think about my mother, Edna Pearce MBE, who was more amazing than I ever really gave her credit for and I will always have to live with that and I'm very sorry.  She was always busy volunteering, out there working, or at home typing.. what a role model for my 3 elder sisters and me.  She set up hundreds of National Savings Street Groups around the Midlands, in and after WW2. I've been reading one of her rousing conference speeches this morning. It was a kind of #WomenEd #NationalSavingsMeet in #Lincoln. Cue another tearfall..... 

Musing on the other best women in my life - they are all "organisers" and doers.... Oddly, I haven't been thinking of them first as "women" - familiarity breeds love and content.  

They were and are just powerful, supportive, challenging, loving fellow travellers - hugely important presences.  Maybe I should think of them as #women more?  I'll be pondering this and have been asked, by the inspirational Hannah Wilson @TheHopefulHT, to write more about this for #WomenEd....  soon...

Finally, one thing I have realised this morning, I have always had my tribe.... it's just got bigger in the last few days....


John's twitter @JohnPearce_JP profile:

Irons in the fire ๐Ÿ”ฅ hammering ๐Ÿ”จanvil, PC & piano ๐ŸŽน Sculpting and tempering apathy into hope #HeForShe  Lover of poetry & metaphor

Creator of The iAbacus

Update date.. 1/5/2018